When two or more people share a common cause one of the most difficult conflicts is working through periods of doubt or frustration. We’ve all had, or will at some point have, our share of doubts in someone or something we once completely supported without question. The question is whether or not we’re willing to question the conflict or the cause.
The doubts stem from relevant fears and concerns about thought processes, motivations, methodology, theology, etc. None of us do everything perfect – we ALL make mistakes. We are human – immature, selfish, and prideful. We let secondary necessities overshadow primary objectives. We say and do some of the stupidest things, often hurting one another – regardless of our heart or intention.
Any healthy environment will allow for valid questioning that both challenge and encourage growth. But often valid questions are silenced with overbearing disdain or dismissal that inevitably leads to more doubt and more questions. Instead of embracing awkward conversations and fighting through messy situations, we become disunified to the point of reckless abandon.
Everyone is growing in different ways and at different rates of progress. When we see things differently than those around us, the choice we have to make is usually not whether or not we still share a cause. The choice is whether or not we’re willing to wait long enough to see our points of view realign and see the cause through, or whether or not the cause needs to be pursued through other avenues.