Lesson From the Biggest Loser About Saying No

Shawna and I like to watch the Biggest Loser.  It has something to do with life change and we all somewhere inside want to be healthier people no matter what our weight.  I heard an interesting comment on the show the other week that caught my attention.

One of the contestants said something like “Saying no to junk food is saying yes to myself” and they were referring to the positive health benefit.  It struck me as a very strong statement.  Think about that for a minute and consider all the things we could put in that sentence in the place of junk food.

  • Saying no to the brand new car, or house, or boat, or whatever THING is saying yes to my future financial position.
  • Saying no to watching 4 hours of TV per night is saying yes to more quality family time.
  • Saying no to porn or facebook is saying yes to relationship with spouse.
  • Saying no to “me time” is saying yes to having time for God.

Anything you put in the place of the no and yes position is ultimately a benefit to you.  It is a discipline issue.

What other ways can you think of to make a no a yes for our own good?

What People Think About You

Have you ever heard the advice “you can’t worry about what other people think”?  Have you ever known someone who actually SHOULD think at least a little bit about what other people think?  I think the advice to “not worry about what other people think” has been taken way out of context by too many people. 

Some people are so oblivious to flaws in their personality and behavior that they need to be told the exact opposite of “don’t worry about what others think”.  Some people need to be asked “do you have any idea what people think about you when you —- ?” (insert obnoxious trait in the blank).

The people who really kill me are the ones who talk so much about others flaws and yet are completely oblivious to their own.  It is especially astounding when such an individual talks about a ‘problem’ someone else has when they happen to have THE SAME EXACT PROBLEM!

Now that I’ve said all this about ‘those’ people I guess I’ll have to spend some time thinking about how my actions and behavior are perceived by others too.  Don’t judge me for saying all this – instead take a moment to consider what people think about you.

It is good to evaluate and improve ourselves based on what others think.  It is not good to be so consumed with worry about what others think that we become fearful of being who we’re called to be.  Knowing the difference is a valuable skill.

Where’s The Adventure?

In going to work every day to earn enough money to pay the mortgage, insurance, dance lessons, cub scouts, and cell phone bill?

In being spoon-fed your whole life, never knowing what it is like to wonder how you will pay for your next meal?

In going to the beach every year for your 1 or 2 weeks off from the job you’ve had for years?

In never seeing new places or experiencing new things?

In living life alone, without a spouse or family or friends to share life with?

In living life without God, depending on him for our every need, spreading his gospel every chance we get?

Time Budgeting

I don’t normally care much about the interviews Tony Morgan has on his site, but this one is applicable to everyone. I’ve written a lot about budgeting money, the Joe Sangl ministry, and living within means. But I haven’t put enough thought or effort in to budgeting TIME. The last sentence of the interview ends with ‘live within the budget’. I’ve learned to do that with money but I need to learn to do that with time. 

Catalyst 2008

Last week I had the opportunity to go to this conference. It was excellent – there is no other word for it. Here are some quick highlights:
  • The biggest floam ball you’ve ever seen. 12,000 people were there, everyone had a piece of floam. Put them all together and it had to be the largest ball of floam ever formed.
  • One of the MC’s, Lanny Donoho, was crazy. At different times throughout the event he did lots of crazy stuff, including bringing in a pig, a donkey, an elephant, a bus, and he did a hilarious video with Jeff Foxworthy.
  • Jeff Foxworthy was there talking about ministry he’s been a part of – thought that was really cool.
  • They had a group of those guys who do slam dunks off the trampolene and they did high-flying dunks to raise $10,000 for Hoops of Hope

Credit Driven Economy

I don’t understand our economy at all. Why in the world are we so credit driven? In the midst of our terrible financial crisis I am still receiving credit offers in the mail. I haven’t opened any new credit in 5 years. We went through a tough time when our credit score became trbl (that’s Charles Barkley for terrible). Our score is just now beginning to get better but shouldn’t we still have big red flags on our history that would prevent lending agencies from being so eager to lend us money that we don’t even want? It makes me worried that the lending and credit problem in our society isn’t going to be fixed despite this $700 billion bailout that is so necessary to get these fools out of trouble and prevent our economy from collapsing.

I have to admit Shawna and I have learned the hard way about getting over our head, but we learned and stopped borrowing. How do I know everyone else has learned and will stop calling the 800 number to get the loan on the mailer they received – KNOWING they can’t afford to pay it??? How do I know our economy won’t be in this same situation or worse in just a few months or years when more debt goes bad and wall street is on the verge of disaster again? God help us through this mess – forgive us for being bad stewards – thank you for providing for our needs – please give us and our legislators wisdom in our financial decisions. 

My Old Plant Closed

Recently I got word that the Milliken plant (called the Defore plant in Clemson, SC) where I used to be Supply Chain Manager before I started my current job HAS BEEN CLOSED. They called it a consolidation according to my source which just means they still had some business and it was moved to other Milliken plants in other cities. This is sorta sad news because I feel bad for all the folks I worked with there who were still there, but I’m really not surprised. In fact one of the reasons I left was because I suspected the plant would be closed and I didn’t want to be there when it did because I’ve known other people who experienced plant closings and were either forced to relocate or just plain given the shaft. I didn’t know it would take a few more years before it happened but I was pretty confident it would indeed happen. I just pray the people who were affected are being taken care of or finding other work so they can provide for their families. 

Another Post About Porn

If you’ve read this blog for a while you might recall several posts I’ve done about porn. I continue to fight the battle against temptation not necessarily always specifically regarding porn but more often regarding eye control in public and when inappropriate commercials pop up on TV. But I do still protect myself against porn and help friends who want accountability with the same. One resource I recently stumbled upon is www.no-porn.com. Check it out. There are books, softwares, forums, etc for helping to overcome sexual temptations on many levels. 

Interesting About Porn

I guess I’m back on the offensive against porn lately cause here I am posting about it again. Just the other day I recommended a newsletter on http://www.everymansbattle.com/. Here is a good one they sent today. If you’ve read my previous posts on porn this article validates the stories I told of my younger years – I wasn’t so abnormal after all – tons of kids are falling in to porn. This is a good article making the point that we can’t just ignore this problem…

Who Buys Pornography?
by Steve Arterburn

The United States Advisory Board for Social Concerns shows that minors read over 70 percent of all pornographic magazines. Further estimates indicate that most hard-core porn viewers are under twenty years of age. To a large extent, then, our nation’s young people are financing the pornographic industry.

Further still, adults who seek treatment for pornography addiction almost always attest to exposure during childhood. Whether these adults are involved in multiple affairs, self-gratification, or prostitution, they usually share the experience of getting started years earlier with what seemed to be harmless magazines containing nude photographs.

My point is this: if you have a teenager, he or she is a target for the pornography industry. Therefore, you be observant of their behavior, and prepared to take immediate and decisive action if pornography is discovered.

If you discover evidence of porn usage—a phone bill, a book, a magazine, a video—don’t simply take the child’s word that it was a one-time experience. In most cases, it’s the tip of the iceberg.

Adolescents caught up in this problem are usually much too ashamed to ask for help, and too emotionally immature to realize there may be a problem. So even if your child has a history of honesty, it’s much wiser to at least suspect that your child may be trying to hide a bigger problem.
Dad, if you ignore the evidence, you may be ignoring you child’s subconscious attempt to get help. 

Porn Links

In the past I did several posts on overcoming porn and I’ve been meaning to share some links to sites that are helpful:
http://www.xxxchurch.com/ – this organization takes a very bold but cool approach to dealing with porn. There are things to like and not like about it but they’re making their point and I like to check what’s going on with them to stay encouraged in my own life. They have blogs and newsletters and a free accountability software that I use with some friends to make sure we’re not looking at questionable stuff on the internet.
http://www.everymansbattle.com/ – Every Man’s Battle is a great book to read for both men and women and then there is another one that is good to follow it called Every Heart Restored. On their website they have different studies and tools to help keep the fight alive so men (and women) can win the battle. There is a daily email devotional that I subscribed to and there is also a podcast and other stuff. Check it out.

http://www.covenanteyes.com/ – this is the accountability software that Jake @ NS recommends, so it must be good. It requires a paid subscription which I haven’t felt necessary to pay yet for my own needs. But I’m sure it is a much better software than the one I use for free and if my accountability partners need to we might all just bite the bullet and pay for Convenant Eyes. If Jake says it’s good I believe him.

Hope this is helpful. I’ll be on the lookout for more useful resources that help fight porn temptations and if anyone else finds any they want to share I’m open to suggestions.